My inspiration and strength…My Mother
She was happy to be a homemaker.
But when my father’s business ran into trouble, she stepped out of the house to
work in a bid to provide additional support to the family. In partnership with
our uncle (my father’s friend), she started a shop on one of the busiest
streets in Dadar and a furniture workshop. Once things settled down, just when
she was thinking of quitting work, in a cruel twist of fate, we lost our Dad in
a car accident. My mother was left all alone to raise three school going
children. My grandparents who lived in Pune, invited us all to stay with them. My
mother was in a dilemma, when her father asked her one question, what example
do you want to set in front of your children, that of someone who is dependent
on others, one who takes the easy way out or that of a proud, honest hard-working
person. She did not take the easy way out. She chose to continue working and
raise the three of us single handed.
Whatever she did, she did it
whole heartedly. She had no background whatsoever in carpentry. She was an Arts
graduate. But when she started the furniture workshop, she learnt carpentry. Not
because she had to make the furniture herself, she had carpenters to do that, but
to set an example and demand perfection from them. She used to be involved in
the designing of the furniture; she came up with ways to improve efficiency and
the finish and quality of the products they made. She always told us that you
may hire people to do different things, but be sure to know how to do those
things yourself. Even things like putting clothes out to dry on an overhead
clothesline with the help of a long stick. She believed that ‘Actions speak
louder than words’.
She was a very enterprising
person. When televisions first came into the market, she designed television
cabinets, even one with the shutters that rolled back inside. She made chairs
for children where the back could be pulled up to become a table. It was like a
workstation, complete with a drawer to keep their books and stationary items.
She was far ahead of her times when she started “House Doctor”, a concept
wherein any job you needed done around the house, whether it be plumbing,
electrical, or any repair work, you just had to call the house doctor and it
would get done.
“Customer is King” is
something I learned from my mother, way before my MBA course. She always
thought from the point of view of the customer. Women were her customers. With
hardly any capital, she started the shop by buying cosmetics from other shops
in bulk and selling them at a small margin of a few paise. She then added
readymade hairstyles to the product line. She would buy switches and make the
hairstyles, as per the demand of the customer, very elaborate hairstyles or even
simple ones like a French bun. She designed a ready-made saree for small girls,
it was called the ‘Kalpana saree’, named after her. Our shop was quite famous
for it. She would go to mills, buy cut-pieces or sarees and cut them up and stitch
Kalpana sarees out of them. Other than these round the year items, the shop
would be flooded with seasonal products. January would be busy because of
‘Sankrant’. She would make beautiful jewellery from the small, white ‘halwa’ to
be worn by newly weds and new born babies. Then during the mango season our
shop was famous for ‘ambyachi dal’ (a spicy, savoury snack) and ‘panha’ (the
cool drink made from raw mangoes), during Diwali it would be full of Diwali
sweets and namkeens, and during the wedding seasons, she would take orders for
‘rukhwat’ (items to be displayed during the wedding from the bride’s side). She
would make all sorts of art and craft items, fancy candles, pooja items made
from sugar, cute stuff made from betel nuts, you name it, and she would do it. Through
the shop she provided livelihood to innumerable women who got a platform to
exhibit their wares. Our shop was famous as a shop run by ladies
for ladies.
She was the first to suggest
to me that maybe everything was not right with Tanaya and we should consult a
doctor. She helped me make an inclined floor at home so that Tanaya could learn
to crawl and creep. She came up with ideas to protect Tanaya’s knees from
bruising and helped me make padded knee caps. When we started the school,
before we opened it for the children, she came and stayed with us and would come
with me to the school everyday and helped me to set it up and train the
teachers. She was Ajinkya’s biggest fans. She was always appreciative of all
that we did. Her favourite phrases when faced with adversity were, “tari bara”
i.e. “Thank God, it could have been worse!” and “Ishtapatti” i.e. “A boon in
disguise”.
In one of her poems she talks
about being the central, supporting pillar of the tent; which she was. She held
the tent strong and high for us so that we could grow and flourish.
Arti Deo
Director, Academy of Learning and Development (School for children with special needs)
Anat Baniel Method NeuroMovement (ABMNM) Practitioner
It's so inspiring ma'am and I can see that strength of character and grace under pressure runs in the family. These blogs give us such a deep insight into your life and my respect and affection for you has increased ten fold. 💕
ReplyDeleteMama was always with a smile. Be it her coffee ice cream or her paper swans or numerous other artistic creations, she was always to brighten up the day a little more
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Rishi
Truly a woman of substance.... To tap the inner strength and just keep moving forward....no matter how difficult the times may be....to never underestimate the power within you...
ReplyDeleteWow! So much to learn from a person like her.
Thank you for sharing this with us!
Every word about her is so inspiring and shows us that life is not easy and same and simple for everyone but by taking it positively can make each day worthy of living. Really appreciate her smile as it's so relatable. Thanks dear for making us aware of such a talented person, commendable
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