Happy 60th birthday Tai!
The youngest looking, and the youngest Aaji at heart,
so much so, that even her granddaughter Anishka calls her Aai and refuses to
call her Aaji. At a very early age she took on the responsibility of the house,
cooking, cleaning, doing whatever was necessary. A first-class student through-out,
she never brought up the subject of doing post-graduation (she did not want to
burden my mother with the financial strain it would cause) but chose to take up
a job as soon as she finished her final year exams and help support the family.
Eventually, she did study law, but that was along with her job.
She has had an illustrious career, starting in a small
private firm, even before she completed her graduation, moving on to the legal
department at Saraswat Bank, SBI Caps, Société Générale and so on. She retired
as the Associate Director, Administration at Cognizant Technology Solutions
India Pvt. Ltd. where she was managing facilities totalling more than 5 lacs square feet, with more than 5000
people working there.
Tai (Rucha Ambekar) is tall, fair and slim, with
thick, long hair, and always, impeccably turned out. She is as comfortable in
jeans as she is in her neatly pleated and pinned sarees. She can carry off any
dress beautifully. I remember Aai (my mother) always saying that if you don’t
like a particular saree you should give it to Tai to wear. Then you will start
liking it because everything looks good on her. She is a very industrious
person, extremely efficient and diligent. And it is not all work for her; all
these years, along with her very demanding job, she always found time to play
badminton, cards on weekends, do yoga regularly, and she loves travelling.
If ever there is a person who knows the value of
money, it is our Tai. It’s not that she is frugal (she is known for her
shopping sprees), she just spends it wisely. Our first television set was
bought out of her salary. I remember, when she was in junior college, her
uniform was grey pants and white shirt and she had two sets of uniforms that
she wore on alternate days. One day her shirt got stuck in something and tore
but she never told Aai about it. She would just wash the other shirt every
evening and wear the same shirt every day to school, till one day Aai realised
it.
When we were small, we used to always be twinning. We
had the same dresses. It helped us fool people while playing ‘Dabba Aais Pais’.
Another funny incident I remember is when Aai cut her hair short. Tai always
had long, thick, curly hair. It was very difficult to manage, especially when it
got infested with lice. So Aai took her for a haircut and made it really short.
Tai was so upset, she cried her heart out, not just then, but for the next few
days whenever she would see herself in the mirror she would burst into tears.
A difference of two and a half years between the two
of us was hardly anything really but Tai was always the big sister. She would
never include me with her friends. Their sisters would accompany them, but not
me. I remember, we hardly ever agreed on anything. I used to love to listen to
the radio and she would make me turn it off. Whenever I switched on the radio
she would immediately remove her books and start studying, so I had to switch
off the radio. We used to fight like cats and dogs, till the day she got
married. And then everything changed.
The practical, no-nonsense, with her head firmly
planted on her shoulders Tai that we all know, is a front for the deeply caring
person that she is. She maintains a good relationship with everyone, whether it
is family or friends. No matter how busy her schedule is and how many things
demand her attention she will always find time to do Sudha maushi’s bank work,
Asha attya’s paper work, visit Prabha maushi and help others in whatever way
she can. It is not an effort for her. She is still connected with her school
friends and college friends, she remained in touch with them even before the
days of WhatsApp and FB.
Everybody in the family jokes about her temper and her
sharp tongue; we all wondered how she would get along with her daughter-in-law,
but she transitioned just beautifully into that role. So much so, she is an
example to all of us. Her sons, Rounak and Rutvik never cease to complain about
how strict she was with them, or how much she pushed them, but that is largely
the reason for them turning out to be such fine young men today.
No one can argue with her logic and reasoning, she is
always firm on her views. I remember when we started Ambekar & Deo, Aai was
in Dubai with Dada and when she came to know about the partnership she didn’t
approve and was very upset. I told Aai not to worry as we all know how fair and
trustworthy Tai is. We trust her completely with our finances.
She can be very irritable and short tempered when
people don’t see her point of view or fail to understand what she considers to
be common sense. Though she may appear to be unemotional and heartless at times,
one has to just look at her relationship with Anishka to understand how false
it is. Here we have Anishka telling her mamma that she can go and stay with her
mamma as long as she lets her stay with her Aai.
She is always there, whether I am getting operated, or
Ajinkya meets with an accident, she is always there. She takes charge wherever
she goes, and always leads by example.
Even today, Ajinkya still complains that I have not
grown up, and still remain the little sister looking to Tai for advice all the
time.
So lovely Arti. Reminds me of Bharathi.
ReplyDeleteBeautifully and correctly said 😊
ReplyDeleteVery well written.. She is a very good mentor 😊
ReplyDeletePerfect Potrait...
ReplyDeleteHappiest birthday to Tai. That was such a beautiful character sketch. Feels like i already know her well though your description. It is a boon to have wonderful sisters...such a trustworthy life support they are. May you both continue to share this bond for life.
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